The obvious difference between men and women is how they approach a problem. Especially when it comes to relationship problems.
For example, if a girl whines about her flings or relationship to her friends:
Her: I’m worried. I don’t think he loves me anymore. *sniffles* He hardly wants to see me at all and he hardly calls. When I asked why, he tells me it’s because he’s busy with work. I think he’s seeing someone else….. Don’t you think? I mean, if you miss your girlfriend, you’d still want to see her even though you’re tired from work, right? *big sigh*
Guy friend: Maybe he really is overworked and tired. Don’t be so sensitive, I’m sure there’s nothing to worry about. Relax! Chill, man….
Girl friend: *HMMMFFH* Nonsense! I know how you feel and you have every right to be worried. I mean, totally ridiculous, right, even if you’re tired from work, at least make some effort to visit you a while or have a quick dinner together? *yak yak yak* I think he’s not that into you anymore. Ask him straight out, or just don’t bother about him for the time being, go out with your friends and enjoy yourself! Be prepared for a break up. If you can’t take it anymore, just ask for a break up now la! *yak yak yak, can go on forever*
Guy friend: A bit over, right, you? Advising her to ask for a break up when you don’t even know whether there’s a serious problem. Just relax la. He will call you once his work is sorted out.
Girl friend: HELLOOOO?? The stupid boyfriend is not making any effort to spend time with her, so why keep him? *yak yak yak*
MEN – they take it easy. Relax, man, chill!
WOMEN – jumping to conclusions and coming up with solutions.
Hehehe. Isn’t it so true?
1st!!!. i lafu you, bimbo.
what about gays? what will they say if they were to give advice? not that i am one and no offence to gay community…im just interested in knowing..
booby: blaff me you! ;P
pokai: depends if they’re the macho or the…. other one? ask xes la. hehe.
exactly!!!
hai i guess guys n gers think differently.
but then ah, who’s right? the ger or the guy??
how tiring can a 5 minutes fone call be anyways *rolls eyes* im obviously a ger kekeke
u see…most important…u’ve ALWAYS gotta step back one step and look at the situation..
jumping to conclusion..that’s not good….
That’s true, I think most women are paranoid.
It’s not about how tiring a phone call can be. Usually when I am concentrating on my work, every other thing doesn’t matter to me. I’d expect my gf to understand.
And most girls wouldn’t enjoy the company of a tired-after-long-hours-at-work bf! So naturally guys tend to decline any activity with the gf after a long day at work. (beer with buddies is different!)
It’s a lose-lose situation if you lose your trust on your guy.
Damn I think I’ve missed your point. What I think is girls should not get relationship advise from other girls, coz most times they don’t even know what they want themselves! Guys, on the other hand, tend to be more analytic and think logically I guess =P
My 2 cents!
pokai: gay? it depends… the effeminate(sp?) type will have the gal thinking while the manly type will have the guy thinking… but mostly i can say is, when in doubt, most gay think of the worst scenario and jump to conclusions.
bimbo: true!! i just dont understand why gals need to think like the world is going to end, when maybe the fact is he din make a few phone calls… dramatic queen sial…
liddat die la…sigh..
true in a way oso~ i guess..guys..good in smth too…
Dr. Love……….. i miss you. * 8( *
women are not paranoid! they have good intuition…
well i wondering… that girl giving advice or… Making decision for her friend? is this the way of ADVICE? lolz
paranoid and fickle minded I would say.
Can’t stick to one decision all the time.
No offence bimbo. But for guys when it comes to work, its work.
Time to chill, have a beer.
But time to party, party like there’s no tomorrow.
Girls, they assume to much, as its the mother to all screw ups. Laters
word!
g: i know! guys got a lot of excuses one.
karheng: as if guys don’t jump to conclusions sometimes ;P
Ivan: haha. just a phone call at least? don’t have to meet up then. i think girls just want to know that you missed them despite the heavy workload?
pikey: but sometimes guys are too slumber, no feelings one!
Abalon: guys good in wat? ;P
endroo: you meant me……… rite? ;P
piffles: intuition? a girl’s instinct, you mean.
insomnia: hehe. preparing the friend for the worst case scenario wat! ;P
johnson: eh, got time to party after work but no time to visit gf or bring her along? how not to make her angry? ;P
iv’N: ;P
yes, Dr. Love.
this guy-girl topics can go on forever…what all of us need to know is learn to let go…fuhhh saaaa but seriously u guys need to read this article that specifically outlined some of the points brought up by bimbo
http://www.relationshipheadquarters.com/?hop=mjaydee
under Why Do Most Women Struggle in Their Relationships with Men? titlehead and understand whats going on, it is basics of the basic
oh btw…if u want to read more i think u need to buy that book…haha..
dat is SO true!
Excerpt from pokai’s website.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women’s magazines.
If you’re like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and — yikes! — asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship advisor, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships — and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) — it’s unwise to take relationship advice from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
WHAHAHAHAHA
HWahwahWa…
Bimbo: Sometimes…conclusions are made…..we’re human beings after all, savvy?
can someone buy me the book pls? hehe. i wanna be RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR ma. eheheheh imagine my name card with that title! wOOt
true la, girls like to unburden. and girlfriends are the best people to unburden because they can jump to conclusions together and ponder and ponder and come up with a million explanations which the girl is prepared not to accept anyway. hehe.
eh, karheng.. ‘savvy’.. hehe… from Pirates of the Caribbean? ;P i savvy! ;P
yup i agree with bimbo, just a fone call to imply that the gf is not forgotten despite the heavy workload is not too much to ask i think. =))
I predict the worse so that I will be ready for anything.. Expect the worse,appreciate the less.
julz: agreed. but i still cry when it happens. ;(
Haha i totally love this post. Need to becareful when giving and receiving advise. If not, hancur lar segalanya.
g: all we asked for is understanding and that is the key word. look…to put it to good terms is ‘behind a man’s success is a woman’ and vice versa… theres no one side here..it takes 2 to tango
dun la so sad, pokai ;P
bimbo: party of course bring la.
But if she say dowan, how? Teng I go la!
pokai: Yea agree to that. Compromise.
bimbo: where got sad…i lafu everyone in this forum so im happy hehe..(^+^)
but i’m not even a member of the forum also… ;P