adjective: causing irritation
noun: something that annoys
I am surrounded by friends who are still friends with their ex-es, some are still good friends that they even visit their exes family and say hi! I find that intimidating, yet impressive. I mean, why can’t I have that same kind of friendship?
Instead, I have the most annoying ex-boyfriend ever – he is SO annoying, like, f*cking irritant. I try to stay friends, or even WANT to stay friends with him, but it is just difficult. He tries to make small talk with me on instant messenger, but somehow, he will rub me the wrong way. The small talk of 4 sentences (Hi, How are you? How’s work? Been busy lately?) will eventually lead to:
“Dating anyone? Seeing anyone?”
I think that he’s not entitled to ask me this question, for the fact that we’re NOT good friends and why does he bloody care? We’ve broken up ages ago! Do you think he is entitled to ask me such a question? I think he’s just being smirk about it, trying to keep tabs on me as if I’m unable to live without him. Yup, he’s MOVED ON with a dozen girlfriends after me, so I think by asking me that question, he wants to show off or something.
He asks me this f*cking question as frequent as every month. I hate it!
I want to delete him off my telephone list, IM, friendster and hi5 account, and his email address. Do you think that’s alright? I don’t want to be friends with him. I think I am entitled to choose whether or not I can be friends with him (which I can’t), whether or not I want to (which I don’t).
But I just feel bad that my friends are able to get on happily with their exes, that they and their exes and currents actually hang out together.
annoyed to the max,
Firstly, not everyone can be friends with their exes. Take me, for example. We did try, but because it felt rather awkward, we lost contact with each other – but we don’t hate each other. Other exes which I don’t want to be friends with, are kept at arm’s length – because I don’t like him/them for who he is/they are.
Secondly, your ex may need some new friends. Maybe we can introduce our irritating exes so they can set up a club or something? They’ll probably ask each other at their club meetings’, “Hey, what do you think? Do you think my ex is seeing someone else? Someone better or worse off than I?”
But then again, they may start bitching about us, so that’s not a very good idea.
Thirdly, I’d say do whatever you feel comfortable with. You want to absolve all contacts with him, you don’t want to be friends with him, that’s cool. You need to be happy and free from irritants, right? So, stop being bothered about your friends who have their exes on one side and their currents on the other. Tell them that you’re not like them and they should respect your decision. Either that, tell them to go and hang out with your ex instead, if they like him that much.