I recently learnt that the term “getting summoned” for weddings referred to the need for guests to graciously attend and extend red packets (ang pow) with money inside as a symbol of good luck for the new marriage of the couple.
One thing that I have been unsure about is this:
How much do you give?
For the minimum (or maximum, depends how you look at it), the money depends on where the lunch or dinner is held. If it’s at a hotel, rough estimation of the cost per head per table may come up to about RM50-100. If it’s only at a restaurant, the same estimation is made, and may “cost” you that much, too – provided shark fin’s soup is served.
It gets tricky, however, if you are attending it alone, or with your partner. I’ve been told that if you are going on your own, RM70 is adequate. As a couple, it’s RM150.
This is the ongoing “rate” in Klang Valley. Should the wedding be held outside Klang Valley, it is lower.
Should you wish you to give a bit more, it’s at your discretion.
Can someone actually verify the minimum rate, please? I just got summoned out of Klang Valley…