by being yourself? and failing…
1. eat first, don’t wait for her
he asked me out for dinner and we agreed to meet at some place. i arrived at that place and as i approached his table, i noticed he had already started eating. puzzled, i asked, “er, you were hungry already?” but he answered no. i felt like he was obviously trying to avoid buying me a meal. ;P
i’ll pay for my own, for goodness sake. but it was actually the first time i was meeting him after we were introduced at a friend’s party. it was awkward, because even among friends we’d wait for everyone to arrive to order and start eating together – unless some people are going to be really late.
and that was only mcdonald’s!
2. telling her straight that she’s paying for her own dinner
i was jobless for a while and had to live on my savings. eating out was tough. 🙁 he asked me to have dinner with him another time and i asked him where would he like to go. he suggested trying some place new. i asked if the place (which i suggested) was within his budget (because whenever he called to invite me out for dinner, the first place he’d suggest would be, “mamak”.)
he responded to my question, “up to you!! you’re the poor person, not me. i don’t have to worry about a budget!”
…………… can you guess how i felt?
gosh, he was tactless. obviously he didn’t want to buy me dinner, right? i was so offended that i said, “i told YOU i wanted to go to the MAMAK, and obviously we SHOULD have gone there, cos it’d be within MY budget.”
stingy fella la he.
3. ordering her something else instead of what she specifically asked for
he offered to order my food for me. let’s say, the place serves caesar salad and oriental salad. i told him i wanted the caesar salad. but an oriental salad came instead. hmmm, i thought to myself, maybe he didn’t hear me.
so what’s the difference with between this and the caesar salad? he asked.
so he DID hear me. what was up with him? if they had ran out of caesar salad, at least have the courtesy to let me know that’s why you ordered the oriental salad for me instead la.
i figured maybe because he was going to pay for me, he ordered the cheaper one instead.
to save RM2.