Do you think I’m a coward? I’ve liked this guy for months and at the beginning, he showed some interest in me – I was ecstatic! So I thought I’d be brave and gradually dropped hints about liking him. He didn’t run away, so I thought it was a good sign.
That was last year. This year, he has gradually stopped paying me attention and I didn’t know what else to do. I think he has lost interest, but I am not too sure. Because of his current lukewarm interest in me, I have stopped approaching him and only talk to him occasionally, just to curb my interest.
However, I think I still like him. I THINK he still likes me, too! I read his blog, and I secretly believe that his words have secret meanings and may be referring to me. He still likes me, right??
But I don’t know what to do, apart from being brutally honest – calling him up for coffee and telling him that I like him.
I don’t want to go crazy assuming that he still likes me without finding out the truth, and I don’t want to go on being a secret admirer for life! It sucks! It’s miserable!
What do you think?
secret admirer for life.
crazy secret admirer for life,
Firstly, I don’t think you’re a coward. I think you’re just unsure of yourself and his feelings towards you. It was good when he showed his interest in you, but at this moment, you don’t even know where you stand!
Secondly, it is really not healthy to be living life based on assumptions. You THINK he still likes you by reading his blog. That’s a dangerous thing to do, in case you’re wrong. In case you are right, then he’s a coward for not being honest with you, too.
Thirdly, when you say you don’t want to go on being a secret admirer for life, you have to be sure of your motives: why do you want to tell him how you feel? is it because your feelings are really strong, or you just want to get it off your chest and whether or not he responds in kind, you’re not bothered? Think.
Calling him up for coffee for a casual chat, testing the waters is the easiest thing to do at this moment. Then, you’ll probably know whether you’re ready to tell him the truth. 😉
After all, it seems like you’ve been torturing yourself for the past few months assuming things.
Is he attached, by the way?