i can never understand why some people can jump into a new relationship right after the last break up. within a week of breaking up, some girls/guys can get a new boyfriend/girlfriend immediately. why???? it wasn’t just a short term fling, you know. some are years of steady relationship. e.g. 3, 4 or 6 years of relationship.
i’d suspect the girl already had this thing going on with the new boyfriend while she was still seeing the old one, and that may have lead to the break up. i.e. cheating on the old boyfriend.
or, she just wasn’t that into him during the time they went out.
or the flame just died. hmmmm.
i knew a couple who broke up, and a few months before that, the girl was being wooed by a rich guy. (who wouldn’t be impressed?) and not too bad looking as well. the relationship was already in jeopardy because the girl’s parents were harassing her about getting married soon since they’ve been going out for almost 7 years. but the guy didn’t want to, as he was still in the midst of looking for a stable job. sad, right? when parents put pressure on the couple like that.
so when they broke up (apparently the guy had a horrible temper), she immediately got together with the rich guy. if he made her happier, good for her. but just think, maybe he was just the back up before someone better comes along? and she just wanted emotional support somehow?
six months later, i heard that they were giving out wedding invitations. i almost fainted. what the hell…. that was quick!!!
perhaps age is a factor for girls as well, the need to avoid being a spinster by the age of 29.
i know so many girls like that, and i just don’t get it. right out of a 5 year relationship and wham! the next new relationship, they get engaged or married within 6 months.
don’t tell me, girls need security? ;P
about the girls who find new boyfriends within a week after breaking up, what’s that, man.. and funny how the old boyfriend is still determined to win the girl back, showering her with lavish gifts and all. i’d tell the guy to drop it, honestly. because she’s not worth it if she can find someone new just like that.
forget the jewellery and cars and mobile phones – anything expensive, don’t waste money on her! (unless you’re filthy rich, hehe. send them over to me instead ;P) and if she tells you that the new boyfriend is just a way in getting her revenge on you, the guy should just let her be. (i know some people who used breaking up as a punishment, which i find ridiculously juvenile and stupid! and even stupid, they got back together, which meant the person accepted it as a reasonable thing to do? we’re talking bout a year of ‘break up’ as a punishment.)
the question is:
(1) is it alright to jump into a new relationship within a week of breaking up?
(2) if you’re the new girlfriend or boyfriend – would you trust him/her? because what goes around comes around.
i know of a man who wooed a young girl while he was still married. he divorced his wife and the young girl became his new wife. years later, it repeated full circle. a younger woman was wooing him and his new wife was furious. but her friends told her, “see, you did it to his wife the last time, and now it’s all coming back to you.” yikes!
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